I know the other moms out there telling you are enough only mean well. They want to encourage you, and build you up, and help you feel better about the job you're doing as a mom. That's admirable, and good. But here's the thing: you're NOT enough...not on your own...not without God. And sometimes the very best thing that can happen to a person...the thing that, in the end, will make us feel the best about ourselves, and encourage us the most, is the truth.
You're NOT enough
I just don't see it in Scripture, this idea that we mamas have what it takes to be enough for our families. I know God made each of us with strengths, and because of those some of us might seem more able to handle the day-to-day tasks associated with raising our children. I also know that God equips us in the tasks He sets before us (including parenting), but in my opinion, that's an entirely different thing, requiring an entirely different perspective.
A Different Lens
Maybe what people are really trying to communicate when they tell us we're enough is that God gave our children to us for a reason. My children have me for a mom because that's the way God planned it. I didn't get Ruby and Fred down the street to raise, I got my two, rambunctious, all in or all out boys.
I am the perfect mom for my children (note: I didn't say I was the perfect mom). Why?
Because God made it that way. Whatever strengths and weaknesses I possess are all a part of God's plan for their lives. Maybe that's hard to take in. Maybe you just can't see how your failures as a mom could be turned into something good to benefit your children. But it's true. You weren't born to the wrong set of parents, and neither were your kids.
When I was pregnant with my first son, I became a bit obsessive about cleaning up our lives in the nine months before I gave birth. I was convinced that all of the non-sanctified places in our lives were going to ruin our new baby, so I tried to force myself (and my poor husband) to deal with anything that needed to be "fixed."
I nearly drove my husband crazy.
You see, I had forgotten that God uses every detail of our lives for His glory. Here's the truth: every parent on earth will make mistakes in their parenting. Some will be big, others small, and every one of them has the potential to affect our kids in some way. That sounds a bit scary until you look for the grace behind it.
As a mom, everything we do (or don't do) has the potential to be part of our children's redemption story.
Don't believe it? Think about your own redemption story. What are the things God used to bring you to Him? Most likely, some difficult situation from your childhood is included in the story. It's not an excuse to be a bad parent, ("What's the big deal? God will make it right." That's NOT what I'm saying), but it is grace for when we mess up.
So mom, you're NOT enough. You don't have what it takes to be a great mom. If you did, you wouldn't need a Savior.
But you ARE the perfect, right mom for your children. God chose YOU for them, and He has the power to redeem anything and everything you've done wrong.