how to really change a life

I lost a piece of my voice when I lost my baby. Where my words were once strong and true here, now I feel a bit lost at sea. DSC_0301

A good friend, one of those who really speaks the truth in love, told me that an article I wanted to post here recently, but didn't, might take my blog in a direction I didn't want it to go. She was right (I love friends like that). But it left me to wonder...what direction do I want this blog to take?

I've wandered down the road of photography. Meandered a bit on the art (and heart) of writing. Stopped to rest on the side of raising boys. And slept a night or two in the house of homeschooling. But my heart always comes back to change.


I took it away for a few months when I moved from Blogger to WordPress. Left just my name and a picture that was pretty, but wasn't me. Then I realized that I missed the change (and hated the picture), so I brought it back. For I truly am a life in need of change.

A counselor. Seven long, hard years and a BS in Psychology and an MA in Counseling to show for it. Not to mention years of study on the theology of the heart, the theology of man and his God. I've known since I was a young teenager that I wanted to help people change. It's who I am. Who I was made to be.

And how do I believe change happens?

With a pinch of Ezekiel 36:26, a dash of Hebrews 4:12, and the choice to walk in obedience.

"And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh." ~Ezekiel 36:26

"For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart." ~Hebrews 4:12

But what does all of that mean? Consider this from my "about me" page:


Change has been defined as “to make…something…different from what it is or from what it would be if left alone.” Isn’t that a brilliant picture of what the truth of God’s Word does in the heart of the Believer?  When our hearts intersect with the living and active Word of God we are not left the same.

Many of us long for this change.  We know that God’s Word is true, but don’t know how to apply this truth to our lives in a practical way…a way filled with love, grace, obedience and joy.  We believe the Gospel. We’ve put our faith in salvation through faith alone, but living out the Gospel day-by-day, hour-by-hour, second-by-second…we don’t even know where to start.

A Life in Need of Change is a place where God’s Truth meets everyday life.  A place of refuge from the storm.  A place where women can come to find hope for change and help from God’s Word.

Offering hope for change to the hearts of women.

My heart is that the women who linger on these pages would leave filled, challenged and hungry for more.  I post often on the topics of Beautiful, Biblical Womanhood, Shepherding (parenting) children, Relationships and how today’s woman often finds herself Duped, Deceived & Disappointed. Woven throughout is a desire to seek the truth of God’s Word and apply it to every situation a woman can encounter.


I was with a group of people recently...people who profess Christianity, but don't show the telltale signs of change from the loving hands of the Holy Spirit. It breaks my heart every time. A pastor once asked me what was wrong with the church (at large, not our specific church) today. My answer? We do a great job of sharing the Gospel and getting folks into the church, but then we leave them! We don't do a good job of helping them live out the Gospel in their daily lives. I didn't know at the time that this question was designed to bring to light a person's spiritual gifts. But it's a very telling description of mine.

I'm a life in need of change. I need the loving kindness of my Savior as much, if not more, than anyone else. I sin. I make bad choices. Sometimes I don't want to hear from God...don't want to trust Him, believe Him, or even love Him. I'm just like you. But I want to help you change, and I believe the Lord can use my broken places, and the healing He brings, to help heal yours.

Let's walk out this change together.



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